No matter what we do, we all feel like we’re fighting an uphill battle. Things are going wrong in every direction: cars are breaking down, laptops are deciding they don’t want to work, money is being spent faster than it should be (I guess this is always the case), and friends and family are not hearing us. We want to do what is right, we want to follow our hearts, but it feels like the universe is shitting on us. So, what gives? Well, think of it this way. Say you make a new year’s resolution to change your life: get fit, stop smoking, eat healthier, but you don’t change your habits or make a real commitment to the process of actually changing your life. Many of us are convinced that if we decide to be happy, somehow, magically we will be. Well, I hate to burst your bubble, but in order to realize your hopes and dreams you have to engage your will in the act of doing, in all levels of your life. You also have to recognize your pain and face your issues. Yeah, there’s that too.
Aries – Mar. 21 to Apr. 19
“I don’t wanna grow up!” I think this is your motto much of the time these days, Aries. You’re having a temper tantrum because you can feel that you won’t be able to get away with riding on the coat tails of others for very much longer. You are going to have to own that you, and only you, can take the steps, emotionally, mentally and physically, that will bring you closer to what you want in life. You have a lot of creative talent, and much to give others, but you insist on believing that you are not worthy. This causes a build-up of resentment when others don’t recognize you the way you would like them to. Believe in yourself. You are worth it.
Taurus – Apr. 20 to May 20
Reap the bounty of your reward, dear Taurus. If things feel like they are fitting into place and your life is moving along nicely, then you have successfully allowed yourself to pass through a very shaky time in your life when you were questioning yourself at every opportunity: you have learned to trust. Pay attention to why things are working out for you at this time when so many others may be experiencing strings of bad luck. You will need to remember these pearls of wisdom the next time you face the long teeth of self-doubt.
Gemini – May 21 to Jun. 20
These days, you find yourself having flashes of insight about who you are and the world around you. You see patterns in everything, and finally much about the pattern of your own life is making sense. However, no matter how wonderful this is for you, try to bear in mind that what you are going through isn’t always applicable to others. You might want to pay attention to the part of you that would like to judge others and it would serve you to practice tasting your words before you speak them. In other words, make sure you do what your beloved wants for Valentine’s Day, and not just assume that you know what’s best.
Cancer – Jun. 21 to Jul. 22
You want so desperately to surf on the crest of a creative wave, or a technical wave, or whatever. You want to be at the forefront, the person on stage with crowds cheering. Or at least that’s what you think you want. You are being driven crazy by extreme emotions that are polarized between trying to achieve what you want, and slacking off because you feel tired, lost, and unsure. Don’t forget, Cancer, you are innately a homebody. You need to be fed emotionally and mentally by your friends and family; stop choosing the same responses to life’s stimuli and expecting a different outcome. Make time for your beloved this Valentine’s Day, spoil him or her, and benefit from some inadvertent self-therapy.
Leo – Jul. 23 to Aug. 22
Feeling a little claustrophobic in your life these days, Leo? Does it seem that others around you are obtuse in their interpretation of reality? Your life may feel like bit by bit, everything you have built, is crashing down around you. There is an old Chinese proverb, probably Lao Tzu, that goes something like this: if you don’t pay attention to the little lessons along the journey of life, you will never truly experience what it is to live. What are the wonderful things that are happening to you? How are you changing and growing by having to face personal obstacles? And what exactly has been at the heart of your prayers lately?
Virgo – Aug. 23 to Sept. 22
Some might argue that when we learn to compromise, especially in relationships, we have finally grown up. Or as the Rolling Stones song goes, “You can’t always get what you want!” Oh right, but the song goes on to say that if “you try sometimes, you just might find, you get what you need.” You have spent the past year or so tending to the small ember that is your self-worth until it has become a full-blown fire through not compromising. This is good. Now you just need to balance the scales a little. Hint: in close, personal relationships, compromise might score you points you didn’t know you had.
Libra – Sept. 23 to Oct. 22
Be careful of the mask you wear. Hiding your true intentions through a façade of untruth might seem like the best decision in the moment, but it will not create many allies who will be there when you really need them. There are people who care about you and want you to reach out when you are in need, and not doing so is only hurting them and you. Examine your motives: why are you afraid to open up and share what is really going on? You are not the only one in the world who is struggling or perhaps suffering. You have to admit that the most precious moments, especially with family and loved ones, are when you have truly been able to be yourself. Give it a go, I dare ya.
Scorpio – Oct. 23 to Nov. 21
Scorpio, you are currently learning what your role is as a lover or beloved. You’ve got all these ideas about what you think your role is, but it’s becoming clear to you that many of those ideas are not in fact true. Now is a time of re-learning what you had thought you learned. Sit back and observe your loved ones, pay attention to how you respond to them, what triggers you and what doesn’t. Choose your words carefully and let your heart, not your head, gage whether something matters to you.
Sagittarius – Nov. 22 to Dec. 21
If your instinct is to have time alone, to sit and be still in the real sense of the word, then you are on track. You are seeking some inner meaning, you are trying to make sense of the world around you, and staying glued to a screen or listening to other’s theories on life won’t help you with that right now. I know it seems like it’s too wet and cold to spend much time out of doors, but finding a place in nature where you feel safe to daydream will do much to feed you emotionally and will help you feel refreshed and balanced when tackling everyday life. Don’t be afraid to take along your significant other, perhaps you will find that your daydreams are similar.
Capricorn – Dec. 22 to Jan. 19
It really is okay that you don’t know what the heck is going on with your life. This is all part of the master plan. You just need a little shaking up, you need someone to take you by the shoulders and teach you how to dance without any rhythm. You’re so concerned with the opinion of the outside world, afraid you will let those you love down, when in actuality, doing what makes you feel whole and happy is exactly the right thing to do. Besides, if they can’t hack who you really are, if you feel inhibited around your loved ones, then they don’t deserve to be in your life anyway.
Aquarius – Jan. 20 to Feb. 18
You are finally beginning to understand why none of your relationships, familial or romantic, have ever felt terribly emotionally satisfying. You are at a stage in your life where you are starting to value all those things you took for granted in the past. You are no longer indestructible, or immortal. The breath in your lungs will one day expire, and you are seeing that if you don’t create meaningful interactions, you will miss out. Don’t hesitate! Seize the day! Get out there and tell someone you love them!
Pisces – Feb. 19 to Mar. 20
You, Pisces, are getting back to your roots. The humanitarian in you and the visionary in you are not content to sit on the sidelines anymore. You will go out there and make a difference, even if it’s picking garbage out of the ditch. You won’t go wrong if you follow your pure intent, which means following your gut. It won’t be so scary this time around as you have managed to gather allies. Though you are still afraid that people might not accept you for who you are or that your choices might shake up your life too much, you know deep down that this isn’t true.